A killer to success in any area of life is trying to get people to like you. This one thing in its many forms is a killer. It shows up everywhere you go because it is inside you.
Here are a few ways it manifests:
You worry that if you say something to someone they will misinterpret it.
If you strike up a conversation with someone you imagine that they will think you are strange.
When you meet someone you have to establish rapport to make everyone feel comfortable.
This kind of thinking results in debilitating anxiety.
Anxiety rises up because you have put someone else in control of your happiness. Since you cannot control if someones likes you, you have put an external outcome to your joy, success, happiness etc.
You name it and you just sabotaged it.
Instead, you need to learn to be comfortable in your own skin. Who cares what anyone thinks?
Just be yourself and let the chips fall where they may. Some will like you and some won't. No matter how hard you try to be nice, some people will not like you.
As a matter of fact, those that try to be liked the most often end up with the opposite result.
At the Warrior camp this past weekend I learned something about myself. I still care too much about what others think and not enough about what God thinks about me.
If I am rational about it I realize that God's love for me is unconditional, bottomless, and everlasting. If I focus on that I can free myself to be me, the person that God created me to be.
I think it is this freedom that we all seek.
Deep down inside we just want to be secure in God's love and walk out our purpose. Freedom is available. When we are secure in God's love for us, we can then be free to love others.
We can serve others without caring about the outcome.
Live life like you have nothing to prove, nobody to impress, and nothing to hide.
Sounds risky but it is the only way to succeed in life.
Let go, let God and for this one day, rip it in your life. Tomorrow, rinse and repeat.