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    Are You Comfortable in Your Own Skin?

    Just Be Yourself September 22, 2017 Enhancing Human Performance
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    A killer to success in any area of life is trying to get people to like you. This one thing in its many forms is a killer. It shows up everywhere you go because it is inside you.
    Here are a few ways it manifests:

    You worry that if you say something to someone they will misinterpret it.
    If you strike up a conversation with someone you imagine that they will think you are strange.
    When you meet someone you have to establish rapport to make everyone feel comfortable.

    This kind of thinking results in debilitating anxiety.

    Anxiety rises up because you have put someone else in control of your happiness. Since you cannot control if someones likes you, you have put an external outcome to your joy, success, happiness etc.
    You name it and you just sabotaged it.

    Instead, you need to learn to be comfortable in your own skin. Who cares what anyone thinks?
    Just be yourself and let the chips fall where they may.  Some will like you and some won't. No matter how hard you try to be nice, some people will not like you.

    As a matter of fact, those that try to be liked the most often end up with the opposite result.

    At the Warrior camp this past weekend I learned something about myself. I still care too much about what others think and not enough about what God thinks about me.
    If I am rational about it I realize that God's love for me is unconditional, bottomless, and everlasting. If I focus on that I can free myself to be me, the person that God created me to be. 

    I think it is this freedom that we all seek.

    Deep down inside we just want to be secure in God's love and walk out our purpose. Freedom is available. When we are secure in God's love for us, we can then be free to love others.

    We can serve others without caring about the outcome

    Live life like you have nothing to prove, nobody to impress, and nothing to hide.
    Sounds risky but it is the only way to succeed in life. 

    Let go, let God and for this one day, rip it in your life. Tomorrow, rinse and repeat.

    Coach Yurij


    On Thursday, October 19, 2017, Leo Quan said:

    Thanks coach. Very timely for me.


    On Monday, October 9, 2017, Kim Crickmay said:

    I realized at Camp that this comes from pride in me. It's about me and I don't care about others. I care about what they think of me and what they can do for me, like help me feel better about myself. God knows me best and has the truest words about who I really am...and am becoming...in Him. When I'm more honest about myself and in my relationships with others, God has the right outcome and works it out the best for everyone involved and He has the final glory in it. Just be me. Easier said than done but I get many chances to keep getting it better. Thanks for this Yurij.


    On Thursday, October 5, 2017, David Covey said:

    I don't care (or at least I shouldn't care) what you think of me!


    On Wednesday, September 27, 2017, Brad P. said:

    Great post Yurij, thank you. As the 1987 Windsor Central Little League "Mr. Nice Guy" award winner, I definitively have this issue, thanks for the insights.


    On Tuesday, September 26, 2017, Angela Barrow said:

    Great blog Yurij however, it doesn't really apply to me. HA! HA! On a serious note, this message touches deep for me as it almost seems to be a generational wound to be caring what others think. Warrior has been a HUGE part in helping to break those chains for future generations in our family. Thank you for being real and getting to the heart of the matter.


    On Tuesday, September 26, 2017, Jessica said:

    Such an awesome post, thank you


    On Monday, September 25, 2017, Josh said:

    This is my one thing from camp, receive God's unconditional love. #thankscoach


    On Monday, September 25, 2017, Dr. Julie Donoso said:

    Stop trying to be someone else - they're all taken! Be the best version of YOU! A great message coach and one I need to hear over and over. I also need to allow others to be themselves too and try not to make them into something they're not! Appreciate your wisdom coach!


    On Monday, September 25, 2017, Stephen Clements said:

    The day after camp I came to the realization that I can be the "best in the world", "the best in my world". I am uniquely qualified to be the best me. No one else has my strengths, weaknesses, experience, challenges and opportunities. God made me the way I am and put me where I am to serve Him.


    On Monday, September 25, 2017, Mark Foullong said:

    Awesome blog Coach! I so need to keep hearing that. Audience of one - HIM!


    On Monday, September 25, 2017, Denise Tomlin said:

    Well said!!! Harder to live out than say, but each time that I Do or Say or BE with Freedom it leads to more Freedom for the next time. Thanks for helping us all to live in more FREEDOM!


    On Monday, September 25, 2017, Stephen Lippitt said:

    I've recognized the more I step into the real me who God created me to be, the more my feelings of anxiousness and anxiety decrease. The less I worry myself with the opinion of others, the more joyful I become. The interesting part is that the less I am concerned with other's opinions of me, the more they seem to want to get to know me. Freedom must be magnetic. Thanks Yurij.


    On Monday, September 25, 2017, Jason Wiebe said:

    Oh good ... I thought I was the only one.


    On Monday, September 25, 2017, Brad Rusaw said:

    I love it Yurij. We are on the same train. Freedom! Why would we want to waste one second of the only life God gave us trying to be something or someone we are not? As always Yurij, you are a massive blessing to many! Love you!


    On Monday, September 25, 2017, CS Murphy said:

    Well said


    On Saturday, September 23, 2017, Joshua Nikkanen said:

    So simple, yet so true. Thanks for being so transparent Yuri!


    On Friday, September 22, 2017, Tyler Jones said:

    So true. Great word coach! Definitely need to renew my mind in that truth continually.


    On Friday, September 22, 2017, Lindsay B said:

    This blog hits hard and close to home.


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