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    Get in Sync

    April 17, 2015
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    BabyJoychemistryRecent research in the field of neuroscience is showing how critical the connection is between mother and child, particularly in the first two years of life. 

    Imagine for a moment a scene which is so awesome it draws you in like few others can.  It's a magical moment.   A 6 month old baby is lying on her back and mom is bending over the baby and looking into her eyes and coo chi cooing.  

    Whenever mom coos, baby breaks out into an amazing laugh that is infectious.  If you are in the same room you cannot help but stop what you are doing and engage in this little ritual.  

    Neuroscientists are learning that during this time of intense synchronization between mother and child that their actual neurochemistry is being synchronized. Mom's brain chemistry and baby's brain chemistry are matching up. Not only that, but the baby is making new neural connections within it's brain, making new connections and eliminating others, so as to be better able to sync the next time this behaviour is experienced.

    In this particular case the baby is rewiring the brain to experience joy.  After a while mom will determine that the joy part is finished and will then gently help the baby settle. The baby is again intimately connected and is learning and wiring to find peace. This pattern is repeated throughout the first two years of life as the baby's brain is developing.

    As I was reviewing this research I was thinking about how as adults we often get stuck in un-resourceful states and don't know how to get back to joy. We hang out in negative emotions longer than we want to.

    In 2 Corinthians I noticed how Paul related that he was enduring many hardships.

    "Rather, as servants of God we commend ourselves in every way: in great endurance; in troubles, hardships and distress; in beatings, imprisonment and riots; in hard work, sleepless nights, and hunger..." 2 Corinthians 6:4

    Sometimes we feel like Paul felt. We feel the weight of the world and become angry, sad, fearful or distressed.

    So how do we get back to the joy state that so eludes us?

    How do we get back to the brain chemistry of joy that the baby had when she was synchronizing with her mother?

    We need someone to synchronize with. Someone that will meet us in the state that we are in and help to draw us out.

    Someone that has the relational resources to return to joy.

    Someone that will be glad to be with us even when we are not fun to be around.

    Hopefully you have someone like that in your life.

    In Paul's case God had sent Titus to comfort him and help to bring him back to joy. He also had Jesus, but let's get back to Titus first. 

    "For when we came into Macedonia, this body of ours had no rest, but we were harassed at every turn, conflicts on the outside, fears within. But God, who comforts the downcast, comforted us by the coming of Titus..." 2 Corinthians 7:5 

    God sent Titus to Paul and he encouraged him and brought him back to a joy state.

    "...I am greatly encouraged; in all our troubles my joy knows no bounds." 2 Cor.7:4 

    Paul constantly looks to Jesus for comfort.

    "We always carry around in our body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus can also be revealed in our body." 2 Corinthians 4:10

    If we are to model Paul, we can look to Jesus and to friends for help in getting back to joy.  

    In my morning time the other day I was thinking about all this stuff and a thought came to mind.

    We are to be like infants and let Jesus coo chi coo chi coo us back to joy!

    One night this past week I woke up at 2 in the morning and started thinking about all kinds of things which started to stress me out.

    Does this ever happen to you?

    Perhaps you didn't do your brain dump in the back of the Warrior Way so you have all this stuff floating around and causing worry.
    That is definitely the wrong kind of brain chemistry going on there!  

    I know that waking up Marie is not an option (that would make two people in lack of joy states!) Marie is glad to be with me, just not at 2 in the morning.  So I thought to myself, 'Self, let's try something different here. Let's look in the face of Jesus and synchronize with Jesus. After a little bit of training and trial and error, the worry started to dissipate and joy started to infiltrate. This may sound a little weird, and it is, but the fact remains that the Bible says that as believers, Jesus, through the Holy Spirit, is in us. He is already there, establishing a relationship with us and waiting on us to engage.

    What an amazing promise!

    So there you go. A new strategy from getting out of any un-resourceful state that comes along.
    Look in the eyes of Jesus and synchronize with Him. Allow Him to help you to return to joy. 

    Coach Yurij

    PS - Let me know what you think in the comments section.  How are you going to GET IN SYNC with JOY?


    On Wednesday, April 29, 2015, Jason Wiebe said:

    'Coo Chi Cooing' with Jesus ... I'm definitely going to pursue this. Thank you Dr. Y!


    On Thursday, April 23, 2015, Angela Barrow said:

    Yurij....this is such solid wisdom! This is the foundation of so much, if not everything! Thank you!


    On Monday, April 20, 2015, Greg Zoldy said:

    Thanks Yurij. I can definitely relate to this one...I don't often wake in the middle of the night but I can sure get myself stressed out during my waking hours and sucked into feeling the heaviness of all there is to do. It's hard to un-train my brain, but here's hoping NEW training will REPLACE old ways and old reactions. So glad that Warrior is there to re-direct and re-train and remind me to go back to God for my joy and rest.


    On Monday, April 20, 2015, Yurij Chewpa said:

    Thank you for your feedback everyone. Your stories make it all real and they inspire others to change.


    On Sunday, April 19, 2015, Derek Haughton said:

    Thanks for this Dr. Yurij. The next time I'm having a 'fear-fest' or 'pitty-party' I'm going to envision Jesus snapping me into the reality of His power and presence in my life by lovingly 'coo chi cooing' me and making me laugh as we bond, and in addition, making me laugh at my silliness for not choosing to simply trust the One who created me for victory in this World and the next! Thanks again! Derek


    On Sunday, April 19, 2015, Dmitri Sokolov said:

    Jesus is ultimate sync! That's for sure! Taking example from people who achieved something greater, like apst. Paul and others. Blessings Yurij, thank you for your love and care.


    On Sunday, April 19, 2015, Denise Tomlin said:

    Amazing Yurij! Thanks. Had a moment like that in the office yesterday. Office is very open and lots of people watching me adjust a 4 month old baby (2 mo. premie)-- we were synced and she was expressing JOY and I believe that joy spread to everyone else in that instant in the office. His JOY is contagious too!


    On Saturday, April 18, 2015, Clarise said:

    Wow, amazing WW Dr. Yurij! Thank you :).


    On Saturday, April 18, 2015, Darryl Thomson said:

    Hey Yurij. I loved this WW. Not too long ago I had that same experience of sleeplessness. After sole tossing and turning I decided to pray (duhh) and within minutes I think I fell asleep. It's amazing how often we don't run to Jesus when we are in distress when that should be the first thin we do always.


    On Saturday, April 18, 2015, Craig said:

    Amen brother! God gives me rest all the time! Joy!!


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