Goal setting is awesome... or not so much.
Research shows that people who write down their goals have a lot more success at achieving them than people who don't.
However, it is also true that amongst those that write down their goals, many still fall short and quite often the annual ritual of goal setting becomes a time of high anxiety and stress.
There are two main reasons why people don't set goals: fear and discouragement.
The first one to hit is fear.
In order to hit a goal you have to embark on a new journey of change and sacrifice.
Change always brings about trepidation as we calculate what people will think about the changes we make.
Sacrifice is difficult because we have to pull away from the gravitational forces of comfort.
Reaching for new goals always has a cost associated with it. Not everyone is prepared to pay the price.
The more fear you step into the faster you hit your goals.
Over the past 15 years I have often proclaimed from the seminar stage that if you could commit to getting up an hour earlier than you do right now for 12 months, your practice, business and life in general would multiply.
My point is that if you got up an hour earlier everyday and spent that time nurturing your relationship with God, you would hear His voice and take action more often and this will lead to growth every time.
In that extra hour you would have more vision time and work on your business, instead of working in it.
You could plan your week and prioritize your relationships and your Gap projects. Guaranteed, if you did this 24/7/365 for one year your life would explode. Problem is, very few people ever get it done.
I was just talking to a Warrior this week that committed to morning time at the January Dreams to Goals seminar and didn't miss more then a handful of mornings for the entire year. Guess what happened?
Her life exploded: better relationships, more certainty and massive practice growth. I want to stress that this is not a formula or a 'works' thing. It is a relationship issue.
If you want to improve your relationship with God or anyone else for that matter you have to spend quality time with them.
The second stumbling block is discouragement.
Discouragement hits when we work hard on our goals and they don't turn out the way we had hoped. There will always be failed goals.
There have to be failed goals. Failed goals are normal and necessary. If you are hitting all your goals, then your goals are not big enough!
However when goals fail and we are not prepared, discouragement can set in.
Do not stop planting seeds and nurturing them just because the harvest hasn't happened yet. The only way you can guarantee a failed goal is if you don't get back up and try again.
If you crash your bike you have to get back on it. If you can get over the discouragement and get up to try again, you will turn a failed goal into a success eventually. You have to commit to never giving up.
After Moses died God gave Joshua the goal to take the Israelites into the Promised Land. They were to '...cross the Jordan River and take possession of the land the Lord God is giving you.' Joshua 1:11.
Sounds easy enough since God is behind and supporting it, things should go smoothly in a timely fashion and without concern. Yet just two verses earlier God warns Joshua, "This is my command- be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go." Joshua 1:9
The reason for the warning to be courageous is because they were going to have to fight for the land. The reason for the warning to not be discouraged was because there would be road blocks and setbacks and delays.
Waiting is not losing. Waiting allows God to refine us so that we will ultimately win.
Take time to reflect where you may have not taken action on a goal because of fear or perhaps stopped short of achieving a goal because of discouragement.
Make the necessary adjustments.
On Thursday, December 22, 2016, Bernadette said:
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"However when goals fail and we are not prepared, discouragement can set in."
You've hit the nail on the head with me repeatedly with these blog posts. The two most challenging areas for me in the past have been allowing myself to dream BIG. And learning to not be discouraged when I fail to achieve my goals.
Last year's January Seminar was very transformational for me because for the first time I started off the year dreaming bigger than I had in the past. I have stepped into many areas of weakness and fear in my personal life as a result. And with great success in some areas, I have also fallen short of my goals in others. But I recognize that it comes from a place of not being prepared and I am recommitting to those goals and more in the new year.
Maliha and I are doing a Vision Day together on the 30th of Dec while Ilyana is with her aunts because we are SO excited for what 2017 promises to bring, as long as we are prepared to receive it.
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