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    Fear and Disappointment Are Affecting Your Goals

    Be Courageous and Do Not Be Discouraged! December 9, 2016 by Yurij Chewpa
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    Goal setting is awesome... or not so much.

    Research shows that people who write down their goals have a lot more success at achieving them than people who don't.

    However, it is also true that amongst those that write down their goals, many still fall short and quite often the annual ritual of goal setting becomes a time of high anxiety and stress.

    There are two main reasons why people don't set goals: fear and discouragement.

    The first one to hit is fear.

    In order to hit a goal you have to embark on a new journey of change and sacrifice.

    Change always brings about trepidation as we calculate what people will think about the changes we make.

    Sacrifice is difficult because we have to pull away from the gravitational forces of comfort.

    Reaching for new goals always has a cost associated with it. Not everyone is prepared to pay the price.

    The more fear you step into the faster you hit your goals.

    Over the past 15 years I have often proclaimed from the seminar stage that if you could commit to getting up an hour earlier than you do right now for 12 months, your practice, business and life in general would multiply.

    My point is that if you got up an hour earlier everyday and spent that time nurturing your relationship with God, you would hear His voice and take action more often and this will lead to growth every time.

    In that extra hour you would have more vision time and work on your business, instead of working in it.

    You could plan your week and prioritize your relationships and your Gap projects. Guaranteed, if you did this 24/7/365 for one year your life would explode. Problem is, very few people ever get it done.

    I was just talking to a Warrior this week that committed to morning time at the January Dreams to Goals seminar and didn't miss more then a handful of mornings for the entire year. Guess what happened?

    Her life exploded: better relationships, more certainty and massive practice growth. I want to stress that this is not a formula or a 'works' thing.  It is a relationship issue.

    If you want to improve your relationship with God or anyone else for that matter you have to spend quality time with them.

    The second stumbling block is discouragement.

    Discouragement hits when we work hard on our goals and they don't turn out the way we had hoped. There will always be failed goals.

    There have to be failed goals. Failed goals are normal and necessary. If you are hitting all your goals, then your goals are not big enough!

    However when goals fail and we are not prepared, discouragement can set in.

    Do not stop planting seeds and nurturing them just because the harvest hasn't happened yet. The only way you can guarantee a failed goal is if you don't get back up and try again.
    If you crash your bike you have to get back on it. If you can get over the discouragement and get up to try again, you will turn a failed goal into a success eventually. You have to commit to never giving up.

    After Moses died God gave Joshua the goal to take the Israelites into the Promised Land. They were to '...cross the Jordan River and take possession of the land the Lord God is giving you.' Joshua 1:11.
    Sounds easy enough since God is behind and supporting it, things should go smoothly in a timely fashion and without concern. Yet just two verses earlier God warns Joshua, "This is my command- be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go." Joshua 1:9 

    The reason for the warning to be courageous is because they were going to have to fight for the land. The reason for the warning to not be discouraged was because there would be road blocks and setbacks and delays.
    Waiting is not losing. Waiting allows God to refine us so that we will ultimately win.

    Take time to reflect where you may have not taken action on a goal because of fear or perhaps stopped short of achieving a goal because of discouragement.

    Make the necessary adjustments.

    Coach Yurij



    Comment

    On Thursday, December 22, 2016, Bernadette said:

    Since the birth of Grace, my morning time had been inconsistent time-wise, I always manage to get some relationship-building time in sometime before noon but this message had reinforced for me the inner knowing that I have to get up before the baby does and be consistent with my one-on-one God time. Thank you Yurij for the gentle but direct reminder...

     

    On Thursday, December 15, 2016, Albert Kim said:

    I didn't hit a lot of my goals this year and it led to a lot of discouragement. I really felt like the needle wasn't moving forward for me. But I realized I wasn't willing to change or sacrifice to get the goals I set out for me. Even setting goals was tough for me because I was acting out of fear and feeling like I would get all messed up by going for it and how that would play out in my life. It's time to change and sacrifice and step into my dreams and goals which means stepping into my fears and getting out of my comfort zone! Sharon and I have been doing vision time together and talking about our dreams and goals the last 2 weeks and it's been amazing time so far! Thanks Yurij and ED!

     

    On Thursday, December 15, 2016, Brad Norman said:

    Great timing Yurij - Even though I am totally ready to engage with new goals for next year and looking forward to Warrior in Ottawa, I could feel something dragging. Thank you for the wisdom, identifying it! It will make it even easier to step right in.

     

    On Wednesday, December 14, 2016, David Covey said:

    I've hated goal setting for exactly these reasons - discouragement after failure to reach my goals. After a few years of failure, then burnout, I don't want to do the work needed to hit my goals anymore. And trying to do too many things at once is the other root problem. I am learning now that I can really only pull the trigger on one major thing at a time. Thanks for the encouragement to keep on keeping on. I will eventually hit my goals when I am laser focused and persistent! Thanks for keeping me accountable and pointed in the right direction.

     

    On Tuesday, December 13, 2016, Sheldon said:

    Thanks so much Yurij, such great insight with the dream seminar approaching. I have found myself many times in the past being both fearful and discouraged often at the same time and I realize that this can be part of our human experience. But I also have be taught through warrior principles that having a Christ centred life allows me to lean into Him , trust , listen and act . This has transformed my life and my families life despite fear and disappointment. Thanks so very much . I am so looking forward to 2017 .

     

    On Tuesday, December 13, 2016, Leo Quan said:

    Thanks Yurij for the God-centred perspective.

     

    On Tuesday, December 13, 2016, Coach Yurij said:

    Thanks for sharing everyone. Your insights are right on. You guys hit it on the head when you indicated that ultimately all this goal setting flows out of our relationship with God. The fear and discouragement can still creep in but we can be courageous and step through the fear and discouragement into victory.

     

    On Tuesday, December 13, 2016, Hamza Saif said:

    "If you are hitting all your goals, then your goals are not big enough!"

    "However when goals fail and we are not prepared, discouragement can set in."

    You've hit the nail on the head with me repeatedly with these blog posts. The two most challenging areas for me in the past have been allowing myself to dream BIG. And learning to not be discouraged when I fail to achieve my goals.

    Last year's January Seminar was very transformational for me because for the first time I started off the year dreaming bigger than I had in the past. I have stepped into many areas of weakness and fear in my personal life as a result. And with great success in some areas, I have also fallen short of my goals in others. But I recognize that it comes from a place of not being prepared and I am recommitting to those goals and more in the new year.

    Maliha and I are doing a Vision Day together on the 30th of Dec while Ilyana is with her aunts because we are SO excited for what 2017 promises to bring, as long as we are prepared to receive it.

     

    On Tuesday, December 13, 2016, Brad P. said:

    Thanks Yurij - I love vision and goal setting and looking back on my life realize it is a key, foundational "skill" that led to me living a way more abundant life. I totally agree that getting up an hour earlier transforms - certainly true in my life. I'm really excited to do the exercise of vision setting / goal setting for 2027 and 2017 over the holidays.

     

    On Monday, December 12, 2016, Dmitri Sokolov said:

    Fear and discouragement both come from lack of relationships with God. I found if we follow his will, He will provide, always. Thanks Yurij!

     

    On Monday, December 12, 2016, Jason Wiebe said:

    While reading this post I realize that many of my goals are too vague and don't line up with SMART goals. I often run into discouragement with my unmet goals ... and now I understand why. So, one of my goals for 2017 is to get very clear about each dream and then ONLY proceed with goals that I'm willing to be intentional with and am willing to walk deeply into. Vague goals ... goodbye!

     

    On Monday, December 12, 2016, Lisa said:

    Thanks Yurij. Discouragement is certainly something to deal with when we don't achieve our goals. I had a big goal that I failed to achieve this year but in evaluating what happened I realized my why for wanting to achieve that goal wasn't strong enough. It was a good lesson and something I will consider as I work on 2017, thinking about why I want to achieve these goals. It's through the Warrior program that I was able to work through that and not let the discouragement last for long. Thank you.

     

    On Monday, December 12, 2016, Lindsay said:

    Discouragement is where I've been stuck for most of 2016. I didn't realize that it was discouragement (until the call a few weeks ago) that had knocked me so completely off track this year. I'm grateful for you Yurij to have lead me to see this, so that I can step forward instead of remaining stuck where I am for all of 2017 too!

     

    On Monday, December 12, 2016, Brad said:

    Thanks Yurij. I've heard it said that if we don't set goals, we'll hit them every time. I have learned to set goals as checkpoints for the bigger vision for my life. Warrior fuels my vision and your wisdom is a huge part of it. Thank-you for putting your heart out there and blessing us. Love you!

     

    On Monday, December 12, 2016, Yves said:

    Thanks Yurij. I could not agree more with your wisdom and have experienced both fear and discouragement many times. Somehow, i find it easier to handle on business goals than i do with personal goals. So, i keep at it and have learned that one way or another i achieve more even when i miss a goal than when i wing it and have no goal at all. The goal setting process also forces me to be more self aware and while that can create some fear it is always key to determine the right next step.

     

    On Monday, December 12, 2016, David Cameron said:

    "Sacrifice is difficult because we have to pull away from the gravitational forces of comfort." I was struck by an image of comfort like a vortex or tractor beam, drawing me in - holding me in a fixed orbit, never quite breaking free. I know I need to give up comfort to break out, and yet sometimes it is so cozy to be comfortable, so calm.... and soon so dead! Thanks for the push - I would rather be strong & courageous (& UNcomfortable) than one of the living dead. I will focus on the Next step.

     

    On Monday, December 12, 2016, Erin McLaughlin said:

    'The more fear you step into the faster you hit your goals.' This is not a new catchphrase for anyone who's been in Warrior for more than a few months... and I discovered the reality of it this year and want to keep seeking those opportunities into 2017. Reviewing my dream list from Jan'16 and I'm blown away by what has been accomplished in 12 months.Yes I missed some goals, or rather, those goals are still in progress...but for me this year without a doubt, the focus was morning time and deepening relationships, so I know that by focusing on those still, more dreams will become reality over the next 12 months.

     

    On Monday, December 12, 2016, Stephen Lippitt said:

    These principles are one of the biggest things I've gained from Warrior. This blog alone talks about my greatest catalysts for change this year. More to come for sure, but I'm so very grateful for the changes that have already happened. Thanks Yurij.

     

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