I hope that everyone has taken some steps towards playing more Full Out
with their life.
As you may have noticed, it is often easier said than done. The best of intentions can get derailed with old patterns and old habits.
Yesterday Marie and I started our kitchen renovation. The entire old kitchen: all the appliances, cabinets, and countertops are now in the garage and sold on Kijiji. Once you do that you are all in
We set up a make shift kitchen in the basement. I'm talking make shift
I have to stand on Freddie's treadmill to make my espresso in the morning.
But this is not a story of woe.
In 8 to 12 weeks we will have a beautiful new kitchen.
Instead, it is a story of breaking old habits.
On Wednesday as I was heading to the basement for my morning espresso, I was all negative and grumpy because nothing was where it was before.
My old patterns were being greatly disrupted. It wasn't comfortable and I was questioning our sanity.
The bad and good news was that there was no going back to the old reality.
The old kitchen is gone. We have to keep moving ahead. Retreat and second guessing and other options no longer apply.
We only have one option. Continue moving ahead, and change old habits.
This morning at 3:55, as I was drawing my first shot of espresso before settling into the book of John in the Message, I noticed that already my brain was adapting and I was getting excited about the adventure
. I even enjoyed washing my breakfast dishes in the laundry sink.
I am moving into a new reality for the next 3 months.
That is exactly what you need to do as you carve out the new reality of the new Full Out you.
Commit to the renovation whole heartedly.
As much as possible eliminate the exit strategy back to the old habits.
Change the way you think about it. Think of it as a new adventure!
Get excited about it and everything will go much better.
Our expectations, more often than not, dictate our outcomes.
Expect greatness and expect to make a huge impact with your calling and your life and it will happen.
It sounds too simple, but it is true and it is backed by science.
What you expect of yourself and what others expect of you changes your reality.
Robert Rosenthal* and his team of researchers went into an elementary school and administered intelligence tests. Then they told the teachers that 3 students had scored off the charts for intelligence. They instructed the teachers not to talk to the students about their scores, and were not to treat those star students any differently. At the end of the school year all the students were retested. The star students showed terrific test scores far above the average.
This sounds predictable except for one thing.
The researchers had deceived the teachers. The 3 'star' students scored average scores in the first test and were randomly chosen to be included in the star group. So what happened?
The teachers, through non verbal communication, changed their expectations of those 3 students, and this in turn changed the students self perception and their own expectations.
Continue with your renovation and start expecting to play a bigger game.
*Rosenthal, R., & Jacobson, L (1963). Teachers' expectancies: Determinants of pupil's IQ gains. Psychological Reports, 19, 155-118.