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    Don't Become Unglued April 19, 2017 Enhancing Human Performance
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    Ever get stuck in a negative emotion or chosen to stay in one?

    Guaranteed, every person on the planet has experienced negative emotions. If you grew up in the western culture (and this is certainly true in many Christian traditions also), you were told that negative emotions like anger, fear, jealousy and envy were all bad emotions. 

    I want to challenge you to not look at negative emotions as being bad. All emotions were created by God. They are not good or bad, they just are.

    If we learn to embrace negative emotions we will be much more joyful and happy in the long run. It is unreasonable (and actually impossible) to expect to be in a positive emotion all the time.  Every day we will experience a mixture of positive and negative emotions. This is natural and normal. There is an ebb and flow of emotions throughout the day. 

    This is not unlike many things that we label as good or bad.

    Take health for example. Every person on the planet is going to get sick. Every person on the planet is going to die.
    Experiencing pain can be looked at as the ultimate inconvenience and the harbinger of major illness or even death, or it can be seen as a journey towards healing and wholeness.

    As I take care of patients, all of them will experience setbacks and have more or less pain. I try to help them to understand that pain is a natural and normal part of recovery. If you can embrace the pain, then the lack of pain will be so much sweeter.

    If we are feeling a negative emotion like melancholy or minor depression, we can acknowledge it and even embrace it, instead of avoiding it by self medicating, eating, drinking, shopping etc. We will have a much richer experience when things change to the positive. In the Psalms it is clear that the psalmists experience the full range of negative emotions and these negative emotions bring them closer to and deepen their relationship with God.

    In a world where we try to avoid any discomfort and seek artificial ways of removing pain, we are actually causing more suffering and taking away true joy and happiness. If your doctrine says that bad emotions and painful circumstances are a sign of lack of faith, you are in trouble because everyone will experience negative emotions and pain if they are alive and breathing. Is this then a sign of lack of faith?

    Can you imagine an elite athlete that is training hard for hours a day and competing several times a week only being happy when they are out of pain and winning?  

    Wow that would really be a tough go. How much better would their life be if they could embrace the pain of training and accept failure in competition as a stepping stone to something bigger and better?  As an integral part of their journey?

    How about a family that is only happy when everyone is healthy and performing at their peak in school, sports, music etc?  How often do we try to fix our kids when they are down and get them out of their funk with a treat?  Instead, we should be helping them to understand how they are feeling and why, and to recognize that everyone experiences a full range of emotions. God uses the hard times to draw us closer to Him.

    After lamenting and complaining about his lot in life, the psalmist concludes that God is good and He will help him get through this tough time.

    "For a good man to realize that it is better to be whole than to be good, is to enter a strait and narrow path compared to what his previous rectitude was flowery licence." -John Middleton Murray.

    It is better to take the narrow path and say the real thing and risk negative feedback and be whole than say the right thing and be liked. 

    This speaks to  the peril of evaluating our success in business by only embracing the good things, or only being happy when everything is running smoothly. What percentage of time is our business running low stress and problem free? Probably close to zero percent!!  If we learn to embrace the ups and downs of running a business, accept the positive and the negative we will learn a lot about ourselves and not surprisingly we will be better able to celebrate all our victories. 

    Coach Yurij

    Chain Breaker

    "But this journey bears no resemblance to the trouble free "travellers packages" sold by the tourism industry. It is more akin to the ancient tradition of pilgrimage "a transformative journey to a sacred place" full of hardship, darkness and peril." Parker J. Palmer, Let Your Life Speak: Listening to the Voice of Vocation.

    Comment

    On Thursday, May 11, 2017, Stephen Lippitt said:

    Thanks coach!

     

    On Monday, May 1, 2017, Dr. Julie Donoso said:

    What I needed to hear coach! So often, my level of JOY is dictated by my emotions. Such a dangerous place to live. I want a constant outlook regardless of the circumstances and this I can only find in Jesus. Thank you for teaching us to LIVE out loud and play FULL OUT.

     

    On Monday, April 24, 2017, Erin said:

    I've read this one 3 or 4 times now. The part that spoke to me was about helping our kids understand their emotions and allowing them to feel each one. Not trying to run in and fix everything, or take away the tough emotions...which we really would only be doing to make ourselves feel better! Thank you Yurij, another great post.

     

    On Friday, April 21, 2017, Greg Zoldy said:

    Turned my frown upside down! Life is extremely hectic right now but in the midst of it all, reading the Psalms, God reveals that He doesn't want me to feel like a rope being pulled tight from each end, but rather like clay being sculpted by His hands in my circumstances. Thanks for the encouraging words and affirming that feeling down and out, stress or depressed sometimes is normal and not all bad, just as long as I go to God for strength.

     

    On Wednesday, April 19, 2017, Joe said:

    That spoke to me big time! Thanks Coach!

     

    On Wednesday, April 19, 2017, Angela Barrow said:

    Yurij, I love this Wisdom. There is so much packed into it that reading it just once will not suffice! Thank you for taking the time in your life to have these revelations and thank you for sharing this wisdom with us.

     

    On Wednesday, April 19, 2017, Denise Tomlin said:

    Thanks for the Wisdom Yurij. So very true! Lately my 'perfectionistic' tendencies have reared up a few times and I have become quickly aware of them. I feel like that's the same thing-- an expectation of all being good, or dealing with people and situations well. I quickly fall short of those expectations. I do much, much better when I accept what is and how I'm feeling (others too) and then look to what to do or say or be to move forward into God's promises for me. Sometimes the turn around time is quick and other times I can be a little slow on the uptake, but enjoying the journey and the roller coaster ride.

     

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